Saturday, May 15, 2010

Go confidently...

Yeah, I wrote a book. You can see the nifty cover to the right of his post. Nice reflective cover representing the material. Paid a guy to that. A year’s worth of work went into that little project right there.

Now I am not here to sell it today. True, I would enjoy seeing a copy or two float off into other’s hands. But again, not why I am here.

I was speaking with my wife yesterday on the “state of the union” of where my book stands. This nebulous project that kept me still, focused, and challenged since this time last year has been this odd, somewhat unspoken subject between us. Perhaps she wonders if I wrote of her. Maybe she wonders if it is a narcissistic memoir slamming those nemeses that challenged me which I victoriously slayed. Maybe she doesn’t get it, this whole writing gig. Maybe she doesn’t care. The only thing she mentioned was she hoped it brought in some bank.

Momentarily I reflected as she left the room how it would feel to become this mysterious, successful author who would sit in reflection in front of a window of an old home, sweater with the patches on the elbows adorning me, spewing words, randomly accepting and tossing appearances as my bank account grew. Ahhh...

Quickly that faded. Back to the present there turbo–don’t put the cart before the horse.

As I came to completion of this dream I have had for nearly two decades, I reflected on a few things. For one, I wrote a book dammit. I wanted to write a book, I wrote a book. Mission accomplished! I sat for hours. I wrote hundreds of pages longhand, then placed them on a laptop, and then to a desktop, adjusting, thinking, editing, manipulating text to become what I felt was my music. I was the only one listening, and I liked my song.

The satisfaction in doing this little endeavor was originally to simply journal thoughts I wish my kids would know, or know about me should I ever leave this world too early to tell them. I wanted my kids to have a personal slice of me they could sample at their whims at any point in the future where I was not able to tell them directly. Another mission accomplished. It was originally for them, not me. It just evolved organically.

I see that I had a void and I have now filled it. I had a gesture I wished to extend to my kids, and now not only do I have the original, but a printed book my kids can read and forever hear the voice of their daddy should God take me home tomorrow. I did something very challenging and time consuming I set out to do. Something that the little voice in me told me I probably could not do. Something many may have the desire to do, but let life get in the way. The same type of life I had to navigate to find the time to follow my dream. If I knew exactly when I may die, I may have waited to start this project, but I do not have that luxury. Go confidently...

What I found that whenever I placed any importance on how many copies I will sell, or how many people will read, or if Oprah will wave a copy at her flock, I am cheapening my dream by placing my accomplishments’ value in the opinion of others. True, who wouldn’t love for the Grande Dame herself to give your book a nod and then your heart’s desire no longer be in question. However I see that now I am extremely fulfilled I did what I set out to do; once being a character defect I often shrugged. I refuse to let what I have done thus far be diminished if my “numbers” are not strong.

Of course I would love to see my message shared by others in the context of how it has affected their lives. I would love to be a “finger pointing the way” so-to-speak. Making a buck or two would also be a nice perk no doubt. But this dream I consider accomplished, and I will simply revel in the fact I did something I love, am passionate about, and can share. My message here and now? To share the hope that others can do what I did. What is your dream left undone?

I like the fact that I realized the engaging of the dream, the pursuit of the dream, and the completion of the dream is where the reward is personally. To release it to others for adoration and capital gain is another venture. I consider it “marketing” of the dream–a by-product mind you. I do not place any validation of the success of the dream on the acceptance of it by others as much as the value of the fact that I am happy with my work, and that I did it when I thought I couldn’t. Therein lies the reward that will forever remain enduring and more valuable that monetary gain. Again I ask, “What is your dream left undone?”

I like the quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer where he states, “Don’t die with your music still in you.” (I will let that marinate in you for a moment.) With every tick of the clock passes a missed opportunity to set sail upon your life’s potential. Sing your song and unfurl your canvas my friends as those ticks are precious.

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
                                                                         ~ Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862)

* (Oprah, my contact info can be found to the right and scroll down a bit!)


Ardith Haws said...

How remarkable to read from someone else all the thoughts I have been having myself. I, too, have begun the quest of writing a book. It looks like the feelings as one embarks on that dream must be universal (or at least shared by TWO people). Thanks for the encouragement.

Katherine Jenkins said...

First, congratulations to you Tony, for JUST DOING IT! You wrote it, edited it, put it together and now it's out there! EXCELLENT! This is a great achievement. Forget about money in the bank, that is secondary to the gift of your words. As you know, both of us have been walking that book writing path. Mine is not complete, so I honor you in completing your mission. You are so right, the important thing is completing it and being satisfied with it, not what all the others out there think of it. Congratulations again! I can so relate to what you talk about here!

Tameka Mullins (Tamstarz) said...

Congrats to you! I know what this feels like and it's the best feeling. I've done it once and now I'm trying to do it again. No easy feat. I applaud you for taking the time to enjoy your accomplishment. I'm not sure I did. I wanted it "out" so badly that I focused on that part of it too much. It's all a process, this business of writing, but the creation of the thing is spiritual. I wept when I finished and I'm sure you had your own way of emoting too.

Cheers to you again and keep up the great work! Thanks for sharing your story with us!


Anonymous said...

What a great feeling! To accomplish what was once just a thought or even just a glimmer that you watched unfold. Congratulations on your project!!!

margg. said...

well done.
i wish i had the will power to do it :)

and the cover looks great :)

pebbleinthepond1111 said...

This is only the beginning. My prediction. Oh, and Oprah already has your contact info. I sent it to her along with your rough manuscript. JUST KIDDING! But the thought did cross my mind once...:0)

TirzahLaughs said...

Congrats on the book! Are you doing print only? You can add an ebook that is Kindle compatible through Amazon and multiple formats through website.

Now the hard part...Marketing.


Good luck.


mpmi said...

I have been meaning to follow you on this site but I am not on facebook only twitter, so I have done the next best thing and book marked your blog on my desktop. Welcome as a new author. My dreams are similar but your much more funnier about it. My husband didn't get the whole book think as well. He was concerned about how much money "we" could make:) I wrote my book for sole enjoyment. Anyway I will read your book and get back to you. Cheers.

mpmi said...

Ah, where can Oprah and I find the place for purchasing? Please post. I couldn't find it. Also I will feature your book on my site.

Tony Anders said...

Thanks for the love all -
@ mpmi - The book will be on shortly after I give the final nod of completion. (I have a couple editing loose ends as we speak). Then after about 6 weeks, it will be on amazon and barnes and I also have a website ( I am just about done with where I will have it as well. I am just waiting on the trailer to be completed, and then all is a go. thanks for your support. I truly appreciate it! (PS, you can also sign up for the blog via the email subscription box at the top right, and RSS feeds too!)

Timberwolf123 said...

Congrats Tony, we all need to follow our dreams, magic happens everyday if we allow it to. I hope it's a big success for you. I know you've already found great success in finishing it.



marcime said...

Tony! congratulations! All you have to do is follow your own sage words of advice - and you will accomplish beyond yoru dreams (funny how our own writing is, in a way, us writing back to ourselves...and if we are failing, often its because we're not listening to ourselves...:)

I wish you well !



Anonymous said...

Congrats! on your milestone Tony. And I agree regarding the number of sales is not the most important achievement for a writer.

I recently re-edited a self published fiction book. I did it my way (with the help of my awesome editors). That is priority number one. Everything else is secondary.

Stephen Tremp

Stefanie said...

I just found your blog, and wanted to chime in with congrats! I also LOVe LoVE LOvE the Dyer quote. I will look forward to checking your blog. You are welcome to check out mine! ( Keep up the good work, and raise a glass to yourself! Cheers!

Marika utomjording(extraterrestre, alien) said...

Tony, I have given you an award on my latest post!