Sunday, May 2, 2010
Friday, Saturday, and today all included time with friends. Last night in particular, I was blessed to be able to hang out for an evening with my old posse. We all sought and secured babysitters, met at our house, and then proceeded to a quaint area of our city called the Short North.
We spent the evening as if time had never passed and kids were not a daily part of our lives. We laughed, enjoyed food, beverage, and fellowship, and also ran into old friends we have not seen in years. Some people in our lives will always hold special chunks of real estate in our heart regardless of how often we see them. This is the sign of quality friends.
She then mentioned she was asking as since they were all drinking, and I was not, was I still having fun. Although my vocal volume perhaps did not increase as the evening progressed, I still thoroughly enjoyed my time spent.
Today’s world is funny as many people I encounter through my week are not only in human form, but digital as well. Through social media and blogging, I am able to speak to, and connect with, scores of people with the click of a mouse. I can send my voice across the globe in milliseconds, and really have become quite fond of the new, yet digital friends I have come to communicate with on a regular basis.
I also notice there are many people who this becomes the only forum of communication with others in their lives. I often have to remind my young daughter that I refuse to “talk to her part” as she will be looking down at a text as I speak to the top of her head. I also notice some people collect “friends,” as boasting the accumulated numbers on their Facebook page takes precedence over a small quality handful of true human relationships in person. Do you know everyone on your friend list?
Pandora radio as I write. I don’t mind being alone at times. However, I must be careful to not totally invest myself in this mindset. I am only one electro-magnetic pulse away from social Armageddon.
What Facebook, blogging, tweeting, and texting will not do is allow you to enjoy the contagious sounds of laugher. The ability to run a joke into the ground to where it actually becomes a nickname or fodder for laughter in years to come is priceless. It is context, atmosphere, and the ability to drink in a human beings presence that makes us human ourselves.
The emotional ups, down, twists and turns that occur in a social setting among friends is what nurtures the soul. Groups of people are a “recipe” to where every person’s unique flavor, no matter how odd or pungent, still combines in harmony to create a wonderful dish.
It is when I find myself dreading going out or not wanting to meet up with others, I must snap to the reality that I could be drifting from one of the greatest gifts I can receive, and that is the presence and laughter of my greatest treasured friends. I have always believed wealth should be measured by the quality of one’s relationships and if that were true, I am most indeed a blessed wealthy man.
I must make sure that I stay connected and invested in those who were here in my life long before Facebook. I must recognize and acknowledge those who would take a bullet for me, and me for them. The ones who would bail me out of jail, sit by my side in failed health, attend my funeral, and protect my loved ones as if they were their own; only because they know I would do it for them as well are the friends to prioritize.
Although I truly love the sentiments and love I get in the virtual world, I would rather get a smile, hug, or “status update” in person. For those who are not close enough or able for that to happen, I am still very thankful for your virtual presence and pray that no EMP or virus ever comes between us.
Namaste’ my friends both near and far!